By Lilian Wamaitha
In as much as organizations set up rules to minimize work place romance, it still happens. After all if you are working from eight to five, six days a week, your colleagues become part of your family. In this setting, relationships are bound to occur whether it is with that guy in the next office or the new girl.
What happens, when such relationship go overboard?
This is Sandra’s story
“I am seeking your advice because I have finally reached a point of no return. I don’t know what to do any more. If someone had told me that things would get to this level I would have done things differently.
I work for a construction company in Mombasa. I have never had an easy life but I at least managed to make it to high school. After my secondary education, my parents could not afford to take me to university even though I managed to get a B+ in my KCSE. Circumstances led me to joining the National Youth Service instead of just sitting idle at home. While at the NYS, I got a chance to study a certificate in Electrical Engineering. While I was here I met Tom. He used to come and supervise most of our projects.
Before long we started dating. He was a good man though he was twelve years my senior. After I was done with training at NYS, Tom hooked me up with a job as a receptionist at the construction company where he worked at. Tom happened to be one of the top managers in the company. The pay was enough to sustain me as Tom had rented me a house and had taken responsibilities of most of the bills.
I liked all he did for me but deep down I knew he was not the ideal man I would want to spend the rest of my life with. I was barely three months old at the company when I met Michael, the IT assistant in the company. He was everything I wanted in a man. He was young and hardworking. Soon we were in a relationship but had to be very careful. I would not want Tom to know that something was going on. We therefore only met on the weekends and probably along the corridors. Not a soul in the office had any idea that I was dating two men at the same time.
It had not occurred to me that I had become an addict of the good life these men were providing all I wanted and needed. That was until last year at the office party. Denis, the Managing Director was around and called me into his office after the party. He would inform me about how much he admired me and that he was willing to give me anything just to have me by his side. I would end up sleeping with him too. Before long I was sleeping with these three men. Life was amazing for me. Coming from a poor background I was living the dream. There is nothing I lacked.
The problem is that I just found out that I am six weeks pregnant for one of them. Before long everyone will notice and I can’t imagine the chaos that may erupt when each man claims responsibility. I love Michael. I have grown accustomed to the life these men have given me and I don’t think that I am ready to give up everything. I don’t want to end up losing my job because it is the only thing I have. What should I do? Do I confront these men or just stay put?”
What would you advice Sandra? What is the best way to get out of this situation she created for herself?
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