By Lilian Wamaitha
Finding a job in the recent Kenyan job Market is like looking for a needle in a hay stack, so you can imagine how lucky one feels when they land one that can cater for your basic needs.
What happens however when, you are stuck in the same position for years- without a salary increase or a promotion? The only way to get one would be by compromising on your values and everything you hold dearly.
This is Marion’s* story
“Paul * and I have been struggling for too long. He works at a telecommunications company. The position he holds in the company doesn’t give him enough to cater for all our needs. We have four kids who are in school and life has not been easy for us. He is the sole provider since I don’t have a job. Despite all this, he is a wonderful husband and father to our children. He has never complained despite the stress I know he goes through trying to make ends meet.
Paul is a hard worker and has toiled for the company for too long. He has been working at his current place for ten years now. He has never been promoted or even had a salary increase. Promotions in the company seem to go to the wrong people- people who are not qualified. Being an introvert, he has never been able to insist on a promotion or a salary increase. For him as long as there is enough to cater for our needs, nothing else matters. No need conflicting with the management and end up losing the job.
Well last year, at the usual end of year company party, I happened to run into his boss. Tired of the situation, I decided to confront him about Paul getting a promotion. He ended up telling me that there was a promotion coming up at the company and that Paul would be the best fit. However, the board was determined to go with another person instead of him. I was crashed. He told me in privacy that promotions in that company were all about who- knew -who in top management.
He went on to tell me that he would ensure that Paul got that promotion but at a cost. I would have to do him a little favor, which was sleep with him. I know he has always desired me. Finally we would be able to afford everything for our kids if Paul got that promotion. What would I lose? All he wanted was one night with me – Paul didn’t have to find out and then we would go on to live the kind of life we intended from the beginning.
To tell you the truth, this issue is giving me sleepless nights. My marriage is important but if I don’t do something we will remain in the same situation forever. I want us to be able to afford everything for our kids. Time is running out and soon this opportunity will be gone. Do I give in to his request and get Paul the promotion or do is tick to the values our marriage is built on and let it pass?”
What would you advice Marion? Is it worth her risking her marriage and the respect her children have for her just to get her husband promoted?
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