Emotional Intelligence(EQ) is not always about being the nice guy in the room. You may help that old man to cross the road or hold doors for other people to pass but when it comes down to it, does it it make you the most emotionally intelligent person?
There are two fundamental questions you need to ask yourself here; Can I control my emotions? I’m I happy?
Emotional intelligence is an ability that has to do more with self-control and self-confidence. Employers are always on the lookout for workers with high emotional intelligence.
So how do I know if I’m lacking it? Worry not, let us look at 5 signs that tell you lack EQ;
1. You are always angry
Are you that person that easily gets triggered by anything? Do you always seem to get into arguments with others?
Being an angry individual most likely means that you are argumentative. This is because Because low EQ individuals struggle to understand other people’s emotions, they often find themselves arguing without considering how others are feeling.
2. You feel stressed
Do you opt to sweep everything under the rug whenever problems come up? When you ignore your emotions during stressful times, allowing them to build up, it damages your mental and physical health.
Unmanaged emotions may lead to depression, anxiety or isolation.
3. You hold grudges
“Not forgiving, is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”- Anne Lamott.
Sounds harsh? This is actually what it feels like to hold onto grudges. Even though you feel like somebody owes you something, holding on to a grudge means you’re holding on to stress, and emotionally intelligent people know to avoid this at all costs.
4. You lack empathy
Because people with low emotional intelligence do not understand the emotions of others, they experience little empathy for other people. They do not get what others are feeling, so it is impossible for them to place themselves in another person’s shoes.
5. You blame others
Are you that person whose first instinct is to blame others when things go wrong?
If you find yourself constantly blaming others then you clearly don’t like taking responsibility for your actions. Don’t get me wrong, every individual is entitled to how they feel but apportioning blame will prevent you from moving forward or developing.
Don’t stress yourself, if any of these signs relate to you in any way. You are not alone. Emotions are complex and every person has their way of expressing and dealing with them.
Do you wish you had better relationships at a personal or professional level?
Do you struggle to know what to do when fights & conflict arises?
Come and join other professionals attending this emotional intelligence training to help you foster good relationships in your personal and professional life.